Hi Al Bargen here. We’ve all been there. Your face heats up as you read negative or even hateful comments written by someone who clearly didn’t fully read your piece, or simply didn’t ‘get it.’
What long term good can possibly come from allowing someone to occupy your attention or your thoughts while you are busy crafting that perfect, witty response that is sure to put them in their place?
This is mind power that you could be using to create your next post, that article for the directory, or even that contribution chapter to your friends next book. Whatever is on your plate for today, it has to be more productive than engaging with an anonymous online critic.
UFC light heavyweight champion Jon Jones uses what he calls the 10-80-10 rule when he considers fans reactions to him. This is a fantastic way for us to evaluate the critics in our lives and put things in proper perspective.
- 10% of the people who read your material will not like it, or you no matter what you do.
- 80% of the people can go either way, they like you maybe, the next day maybe not, they are mostly fence sitters, they swim with the tide.
- 10% will be devoted fans and follow whatever you write, deserving or not.
If you are putting your writing ‘out there’ for the world to see, you can expect to see this type of pattern emerge. But It’s not simply a matter of the “some will, some won’t, so what?” is it?
We seem to have, hardwired into our DNA somehow, the instinct to defend ourselves and strike back when attacked. So we instinctively consider insulting the one that insulted us. Even the score.
If you write, someone on the internet who doesn’t know you and you’ve never met is going to insult you. How you respond to this anonymous put-down just may be an insight into your potential for success.
Fighting with these people online is almost always a waste of your most valuable resource… your time. Your mental energy also falls victim in this practice. My encouragement for you today is to focus on the 10% that love you, and the 80% that could potentially be swayed.
Question: How do you respond to online negativity?
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